For parents who are no longer together, co-parenting can often be fairly difficult and stressful. You just want to give your child the best life possible, but you’re having a hard time focusing on that as you try to work with your ex.
Wondering how you can make things easier? Is there anything you can do? Absolutely.
Four steps you can take today to make the co-parenting process easier tomorrow
You’re certainly not alone in this situation; many co-parents feel exactly the same way that you do. Here are a few ways to make it all easier:
- Don’t stick rigidly to schedules. Yes, having a schedule is helpful, but things change. The more flexible you are, the smoother this is going to go for you, your ex and your child.
- Put your child first. Parents often run into conflict when they both put what they want first. If you both focus on the child, you eliminate that.
- Make sure you’re good at communicating. Be prompt when responding to messages. Work with your ex at every turn. Putting in just a little effort in this area can be life-changing.
- Focus on brevity when exchanging custody. You want your child to feel comfortable, not torn, even if you’re sad when you leave them with your ex.
You may also want to sit down and have a talk with your ex about these goals. Just telling them that you’d like to make things easier and that you’re open to doing what it takes can make a big difference in their mindset.
Crafting an effective parenting plan may take some help
Of course, you do have legal rights as a parent. An effective parenting plan can help you protect your rights as a parent and preserve your relationship with your child. An experienced advocate can help you learn more.